secrets to happy relationships

1.develop a realistic view of committed relationships
recognize that the crazy infatuation you experienced when your romance was new won’t last.a deeper,richer relationship,and one that should still include romance,will replace it.a long -term relationship has ups and downs,and expecting it will be all sunny and roses all the time is unrealistic.
2.work on the relationship
an untended garden develops weeds that can ultimately kill even the heartiest plants.and so it is with relationships.it is important to address problems and misunderstandings immediately.some people believe good relationships just happen naturally.the truth is that a good relationship,like anything you want to succeed in life,must be worked on and tended to on a regular basis.neglect relationship,and it will often go down.
3.spend time together
there is no substitute for shared quality time.when you make a point of being together,without kids, pets and other interruptions,you will form a bond that will get you through life’s rough spots.time spent together should be doing a shared activity,not just watching television.
4.make room for ”separations”
perhaps going against conventional wisdom,spending time apart is also an important component of a happy relationship.it is healthy to have some separate interests and activities and to come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to share your experiences.missing your partner helps remind you how important he or she is to you.
5.make the most of your differences
stop and think:what most attracted you to your partner at the beginning?i ‘ll almost guarantee that it was exactly the thing that drives you most insane today.take a fresh look at these differences.
try to focus on their positive aspects and find an appreciation for those exact things that make the two of you different from one another.it’s likely that your differences balance one another out and make you a great team.
6.don’t expect your partner to change;but at the same time give them more of what they want.
if both you and your partner stop trying to change each other,you will eliminate the source of most of your arguments.at the same time,each of you should focus on giving one another more of what you know the other person wants,even if it doesn’t come naturally.for instance,instead of complaining how your partner never cleans out the